Maid of Honour duties
By Taryn Gurr
The big day that you have been helping your BFF plan for has finally arrived. Here are a few things that you should do to make the special day as stress free and fun as possible. This is the day that the bride should sit back, relax and enjoy the moment… and the attention. How can you make this happen?
1. Have a to-do list
Sit down with the bride a week or so before the wedding and get an understanding of who is doing what and when. It is up to you to make sure that everyone is doing what they should be doing when they should be doing it.
2. Have a schedule… and keep to it!
Turn your to-do list into a schedule. It is important to have a well planned time line to ensure that the bride gets to the chapel relaxed and on time.
3. Hydrate, Hydrate, Hydrate
The morning of the wedding can be a rushed and frantic time and some brides simply forget to stay hydrated and eat. It is imperative that the bride eats healthily as no food (or the wrong food) leads to low blood sugar and low blood sugar leads to irritability. Let’s face it, no one wants to be dealing with a cranky bride-zilla!
4. Act as the points person
If the bride and groom don’t have a wedding planner you should be the person all the key vendors get in touch with. Give your phone number to family, friends and service providers so that they can contact you. Remember to keep your phone switched on, charged and to have it with you all the time.
5. Chapel & Reception Decor
If there is any decor that needs to be delivered or put up, please do this (or delegate it to a trustworthy bridesmaid or two). The bride shouldn’t have to be concerned with this sort of thing,
6. Help her get dressed
This is either the most fun or most stressed- out time the two of you will have before the wedding so be prepared! Have everything, from undergarments to shoes and jewellery laid out well before the bride starts to dress. The last thing either of you need is to be searching for the special pair of earrings or that extra pair of hose you were sure you packed.
7. Be at her beck & call
The bride will need someone to fetch and carry anything she needs, someone to deal with her phone & generally keep her calm. That person should be you.
8. Write your speech… before the big day
The wedding day is all about the bride. Please don’t think that you will have the time to write your speech the morning of the wedding; you won’t! It is unwise to try and wing it unless you are a seasoned public speaker.
9. Act as her concierge
If there are certain family members or friends who really stress the bride out, keep them away from her before the wedding. One stressful family member can create chaos for the bride.
10. Be on drunk patrol
If your BFF plans on enjoying some bubbly with the girls while you’re getting ready, it’s your duty to limit the number of glasses to a max of two per person. Also have some munchies about – alcohol on an empty tummy is never a good idea!
11. Make sure the bridal suite is clean & tidy
If the bride and her girls are getting ready in the suite in which the bridal couple will be spending their first night together it is up to the maid of honour to make sure that the room is tidy and that everyone has cleared all of their personal belongings out of the room. There’s very little that can ruin a romantic mood better than mess and chaos can.