August 31, 2014

Marriage from a biblical perspective


Where did marriage originate? Many will claim one thing or the other but the institution of marriage was designed by God with a particular purpose in mind. It all began with Adam. Adam was created perfect. He was created in the image and likeness of God. This means that He had God’s good looks and also God’s nature.

All of creation was created by the spoken word of God. There was only one creature that was created differently, that is man. Genesis 2:7 And the LORD God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living being.(NKJ). God made mankind differently by forming him out of the dust of the earth. Perhaps God made a clay model of Adam? Then God did something completely different to all the other created things and creatures, He breathed life into the model that He made of Adam. This makes human beings the only creatures that God created with His hands and that He breathed His life into.

God created man to have fellowship with Him. We know that God visited Adam and possibly walked through the garden with him chatting about all manner of things. In Genesis we see the entrance of the “other half”. Genesis 2:18 And the LORD God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.”(NKJ). God noticed that Adam was lonely and decided to do something about it. We see another anomaly in the creation process. God caused Adam to fall into a deep sleep and then, as the bible says, took one of his ribs and used it to create a woman. So Eve, or woman was created from part of Adam and not from the dust of the earth.

Immediately after presenting Eve to Adam, God says in Genesis 2:24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.(NKJ). I would guess that the part of Adam that was used to create Eve, the rib, gets reunited with Adam at marriage and the two parts together become one whole, or one flesh.

So in the eyes of God, as is declared at every church wedding, the two become one flesh. Adam represents men and Eve represents women and when they wed they become one flesh, or a complete being or entity. We know that mathematically one plus one equals two. Therefore for the equation to work it must be a half plus a half makes one. Marriage is the completion or creation of one whole entity.

What is the purpose of all this one might ask? It was to multiply, procreate, have lots of kiddies in order to subdue and replenish the earth. So then the original purpose of marriage was that the two halves that were separated at creation be reunited into one whole in order to reproduce more halves.

The union of marriage not only fulfils our created destinies but also is there to perpetuate the human race. If, by marriage, the two become one flesh, then it is important to take note of how destructive divorce is. It is almost like a lamination process. If you have ever tried to separate 2 materials that have been laminated you will find that there is no clean way to do it without creating a huge amount of damage to both of the original materials. This is how marriage intertwines both husband and wife and knits them together.

We know that there has been a role reversal in households in the last few decades but this was not the original intention. The roles of husband and wife are not interchangeable. If you simply look at it from a hormonal aspect, the man has a different set and ratio of hormones to the woman. Testosterone makes the man bold, tough and hard while oestrogen makes the woman caring, soft and tender. It is difficult, near impossible for a man to fulfil the role of a mother and in the same way it is naturally difficult for a woman to fulfil the role as a father. This is simply by design.

I believe that a healthy family has both roles fulfilled and kids grow up with a balance. Not to disrespect single parents who have a huge task of fulfilling both roles, this I find remarkable and worthy of mention.

Divorce is not part of the original plan. I am sure, if you remember your wedding vows, or covenant, there is a clause which states “till death do us part”. The original plan was for marriage to last until one of the partners dies. This meant having to continually work at keeping the marriage alive and ticking. The reason for such high divorce rates today is that we have lost sight of this important fact and place less importance on the sanctity of marriage. The world around us also has a huge impact on this by continually trying to make us discontent with what we have by pretending to offer something better. Men look to younger, healthier, more attractive women. Ladies sometimes look to a better provider or someone who is more appealing or maybe even physically stronger.

It is wise to marry with intent. If you consider a marriage simply as a contract that can be annulled or cancelled on a whim if things don’t work out the way you would like then why get married in the first place? I am not negating divorce where abusive relationships harm people and children, or where infidelity is rife. I am stating that in light of the high divorce rate, marriage has lost a lot of its purpose.

So with this in mind, it is time to take stock of your intended union. Do you want to end up another statistic, or do you want to grow old with your spouse, and die with him or her at your side. These are pertinent questions and it would be a sober approach to the decision to get married.

Lastly, if you believe that God invented, ordained and blessed marriage, then know that your marriage will be blessed. As the sparks go upward, and the seasons remain, so will your marriage be blessed. Sometimes in order to find gold one has to sift through tons of gravel and muck, so the real treasure of marriage is sometimes disguised as ordinary rock and mud. You just have to find the gems that are hidden along the way and recognise them for what they are.

Live long and prosper.

This article was published in Brides Essence issue 14 – Written by Grant DerrickBible